Thursday, December 27, 2018

2 DAYS AFTER . . .

Did you clean up the living room yet? Andy Rooney says it's a good idea not to clean up too soon . . . that "mess" is part of the precious holiday memory.

Have you finished the Christmas turkey/ham/chicken/standing rib/tofu? What did you do with the leftovers, anything special? We used to slice leftover turkey and put it on bread with slices of cheese on top, then baked or broiled (memory lapse here) until the turkey was hot and the cheese melted. These might have been done in the electric skillet. (Nowadays it's the panini press.)

Recycling? Papers, boxes, plastics (we recycle #1 and #2 plastics), cans, bottles.


The previous year's Christmas cards became part of the kids' crafts.

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My Minneapolis daughter is visiting this week. We have a relaxed schedule. She visited with her brother's family on Christmas Day.

Tomorrow my Ohio daughter comes for lunch and chat.

We heard from the Arizona kid on Christmas Eve.

I played the organ on Christmas Day at the church. Next gig is Sunday the 30th, "Festival of Lessons and Carols."

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Before you know it, we'll be wishing each other a Happy New Year--celebrating the arrival of 2019. The year will be two days old when I visit with you next. In the meantime, you can be thinking up a good word for the coming year. I have one in mind already.

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When you get tired of recycled turkey etc., try out a new eating place in your neighborhood. Or, trade leftovers with another family. Or go on a fast. (That one doesn't appeal to me much.)

Wherever you are, God bless you abundantly in the coming days and months.




Thursday, December 20, 2018

COUNTING DOWN
5...4...3...2...1!

Counting today, there are five (5) days left before Christmas Day.

Are you at "Yikes!" yet?

At my house it's a time of Post-It Note reminders and checklists.

--Veggie trays made and delivered? 

--Cards and letters mailed? 

--Gifts purchased or made? 

--Gifts wrapped? (hmm, move on to next item)

--House ready for company? (not yet)

--Food purchased for company visit? (working on it)

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So what have I been doing, you ask?

There's music to locate and then practice for the next three services I'll play.

A close friend who now lives in Florida is "home for the holidays" to visit her family; we had lunch together yesterday and an intense but satisfying catching-up session.

There are bills to pay during this week of the month. That's if they're going to be on time.

I've cut a few more blanket and pillow case kits for my Heart & Hands group to sew this week; this will be our final meeting until the new year.

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Somehow--maybe there really are elves who come in and do their thing while I sleep--anyway, somehow, it all gets done in time for whatever is happening next.

At the end of these five days, we can rejoice with Linus and Charlie Brown and the gang, and remember what Christmas is all about.

A blessed Christmas to you from Thursday's Child!





Thursday, December 13, 2018

THE MYTHS OF CHRISTMAS



First, a definition:

Myth—any real or fictional story, recurring theme, or character type that appeals to the consciousness of a people by embodying its cultural ideals or by giving expression to deep, commonly felt emotions.

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Do you remember when you were told there was no Santa Claus? That's right--no jolly fat man in a big red suit, with a long white beard, who rode through the sky in a sleigh pulled by eight tiny reindeer? No sudden appearance down the chimney to bring lots and lots of toys and gifts to good little girls and boys?

Some people recall this exploded myth with sadness--they feel they lost the mystery and magic of a generous saint.

Other folks, decades later, still cling to the anger they felt--they'd been lied to, betrayed, led to believe one thing, then the rug was whipped out from under them; they lost faith in those who had told them the story in the first place and then whisked it away.

You might like to search for the letter written to The New York Sun in 1897, in which a little girl named Virginia O'Hanlon asked the editor if there really was a Santa Claus. Just type in yes virginia there is a santa claus.

We all have myths and stories we've enjoyed, needed, and even, perhaps, still cling to.

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Another one was dramatized for me when I taught freshman composition. We were nearing the end of the first semester, heading into December. We'd read an essay appropriate for the holidays soon to be celebrated.

My class of 22 included students ages 18 to over 50. Not quite a bell curve, there being more in the 18-28 age range. But one woman was 50-something; she saw the world through a different lens. I anticipated a lively discussion.

The Christmas Eve activities shared by most students included school plays and concerts,  church pageants, family trips to visit grandparents. Pretty much a broad spectrum of what scholars call The Golden Age--that time that "always was, and never is." We recall the good things, we relate to the happy times from movies or television programs. We lump our childhood Christmases together and declare we "always had a happy Christmas time."

My next question to the class was, "What are you going to do this Christmas Eve?"

"Go to church." 
"Go to a party." 
"Open presents." 
"Have a big family dinner."

Then my 50-something student spoke up. She wouldn't be celebrating, not because she wasn't religious or had anything against Christmas. She was unmarried. Had no children or other relatives. She found Christmas Eve the loneliest time of the year. 

The room grew suddenly, unexpectedly, silent. 

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For most of the younger students, it was like learning Santa Claus was just a fun kids' story.

Christmas Eve was supposed to be a magical time. Presents under the tree! Big dinner with lots of food and wine! Lights and noise and action, the bigger the better!

This woman, twice their age, had injected Reality--a different kind of reality--into their world. Having no children or other family, her friends couldn't relate to her situation. And she couldn't relate to the magic and hoop-la described by the younger students.

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I'm not against myths. As an art form, the myth often expresses or illustrates truth. 

Santa Claus represents all that is good and generous. He is, in popular culture, St. Nicholas, a bishop of the church, who actually existed. Here is a portion of what is written about the good saint on the website franciscanmedia.org:

Perhaps the best-known story about Nicholas concerns his charity toward a poor man who was unable to provide dowries for his three daughters of marriageable age. Rather than see them forced into prostitution, Nicholas secretly tossed a bag of gold through the poor man’s window on three separate occasions, thus enabling the daughters to be married. Over the centuries, this particular legend evolved into the custom of gift-giving on the saint’s feast. In the English-speaking countries, Saint Nicholas became, by a twist of the tongue, Santa Claus—further expanding the example of generosity portrayed by this holy bishop.

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The myth of a universally happy Christmas Eve is not bad, or destructive. It may be the only light in a dark existence. (You might want to reread, or watch, Charles Dickens' A Christmas Carol for reference.) 

Myth points to truth. Hang onto that.

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And one happy ending to the Santa Claus story is told by my friend Jan. When she learned Santa Claus wasn't real, she was extremely hurt. Her dad told her, "Santa Claus lives, in the hearts of little children everywhere."


Saint Nicholas


Thursday, December 6, 2018

HERE WE GO!



Part of the winter scene--in days gone by and still today--was and is sledding. 

Somehow that snowy activity never caught on with me. It wasn't the cold--I had snowsuits, mittens, boots, the whole kit, enough to keep me warm for at least a half-hour of fun.

Fun? Not for me. Did you know that the only way you can race downhill on a sled is first to walk up the hill pulling the sled? Of course you did. And once there, you hopped on the sled, pushed off, and zipped down faster than a speeding bullet, to the bottom. Thrill? Of course it's a thrill. Until you have to haul the sled up the hill again. The fourth or fifth time, unless you're super-energetic, is when sledding became no-fun-at-all for me.

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The reason I bring up sledding is to make it an analogy for this time of preparation for the holidays.

When I taught freshman composition, we had to learn the difference between metaphor and analogy. Metaphor is simple: A=B. Analogy is about process: Process A is like Process B.

Today: Preparing for the Holidays is like Sledding.

Things go along smoothly for a time as we're going faster and faster downhill. Then we hit a bump. (You name it--flu, unexpected expense for the house/car/kids, order didn't arrive, unexpected visitors did arrive . . . .)

Finally we get to the bottom of that particular hill. Then it's up the hill again, for another run. And another. And still another.

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My downhill progress was halted until the new flooring was installed, furniture has been restored to its rightful place in the living and dining rooms, some chairs donned new vinyl tips to prevent their scuffing the new floors . . . whereupon life began revving up again to its recognizable downhill pace.

Yesterday's list included sewing Christmas gifts--checked off a couple of items there.

The festive season is also a time of preparing and delivering veggie trays or brownies & tangerines--made a good start there. Some will be delivered this week, some next week.

Christmas cards are scattered on the desk waiting for addresses and stamps, and in some, there will be notes to write. (Had to buy new cards this year--the old ones went off and hid somewhere. They also took with them the Christmas stamps I like to use. Note: Add stamps to tomorrow's shopping list.)

Most days you'll find me with my head in a tote stuffed with Advent music. And after that, it'll be music for Christmas Day and the following Sunday's Lessons & Carols.

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Yes, it's all happening, day by day, hour by hour. My challenge is to keep focused on one project long enough to get it finished. For us list makers, there's nothing so exciting as crossing off a completed task. There may be 99 more tasks to be done, but the one that's over and done with signals a moment of celebration.

One great big plus for this season--there's no time to get bored or wonder what to do!


Each day brings more hours to give to food prep or note writing or gift wrapping or music practice . . . .

I'm not crazy about the hectic pace. Downhill speed isn't my style.  Super-saturated lists don't make me smile. Discovering I'm out of gift bags/wrapping paper/ribbons and bows doesn't quite make it to the panic stage, but I'd rather have things to hand. (Another bunch of stuff to add to the shopping list.)

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Back in the '60s we urged everyone to "stop and smell the roses," just in case they were too busy to enjoy life.

Over the years I've taken time to enjoy a great many things in my life. Today I give thanks for my youngest daughter, whose birthday it is. We'll visit by phone later in the afternoon and compare my weather in Indiana with her weather in Minnesota. We'll catch up on what's happening in our lives. 

I am grateful for family and for friends, for weather that hasn't become too difficult (yet), for people to give gifts to, and for time and energy to make many of my gifts.

Most of all, may I stop my sled's downhill race and appreciate this season--Advent into Christmas--for what it means.

May all your sledding be free of rocks and bumps, and the trip back up the hill easy.





Thursday, November 29, 2018

A TIME BETWEEN

[Yesterday I got a big surprise--the new flooring I'm having installed, which was supposed to be next week, was suddenly and almost alarmingly shoved to the head of the queue. So today's the day! I spent last evening making sure the projects I'm working on for church (sewing and music) were at a stage I could leave them for two full days. Hence, today's repeat of a post you may remember from another year. And it's still a propos this time around.]

A week ago we celebrated Thanksgiving Day in the U.S. For the past month, many folks have taken the challenge to find 30 ways to express their gratitude. 

In my neighborhood, the day after turkey day signaled the lighting of the Christmas lights, inflating of  the snowmen/Santas/reindeer that crowd every lawn, and decorating of outside bushes and trees and fences with glittery garlands and bright bows.

On Monday I made a foray into necessary shopping (no gifts, just food and paper products and vitamins)--and was greeted by the Salvation Army bell ringers in the foyer of Walmart and Christmas music on the PA system.

I'm. Not. Ready.

I don't mean: Help, my gifts aren't done! Or, what am I going to get Aunt Martha? Or, the house will never be ready for the family gathering.

None of these scenarios apply to me.

I'm not ready: Not ready to celebrate. Not ready to sing carols about a babe born in a manger. Not ready to bake and make candy and write Christmas cards and fill stockings....

It's too early.

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I treasure this time between the autumn harvest festival we call Thanksgiving Day and the approaching winter solstice celebration that heralds Christmas. These few weeks of darker and darker days slow me down. There's time to pause and reflect--what is this time all about, anyway? Have I learned anything about myself and my relationship to the society I live in, and the people I know? Am I part of the eternal gift-buying, gift-getting? Does the idea of a Christmas gathering--a party by any other name--sound inviting?

Some people wonder if I've reached curmudgeon status. I say, not yet. I'm not bah-humbugging my way through the store. I'm not avoiding my relatives and friends. It's just--well, as Winston Churchill says, a time of reflection. 

So here are some thoughts about Christmas, and the celebration thereof for your own reflection:

God never gives someone a gift they are not capable of receiving. If he gives us the gift of Christmas, it is because we all have the ability to understand and receive it. 
     --Pope Francis


Christmas is a bridge. We need bridges as the river of time flows past. Today's Christmas should mean creating happy hours for tomorrow and reliving those of yesterday. 
     --Gladys Taber

Unless we make Christmas an occasion to share our blessings, all the snow in Alaska won't make it 'white'. 
     --Bing Crosby

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And for a light-hearted view:

One of the most glorious messes in the world is the mess created in the living room on Christmas day. Don't clean it up too quickly. 
     --Andy Rooney

What I don't like about office Christmas parties is looking for a job the next day.
     --Phyllis Diller

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Wherever you live, however you celebrate Christmas (if you do), keep an open heart. Look for blessings.






Thursday, November 22, 2018

Happy Thanksgiving!




Your dinner may feed one or a dozen or a couple hundred . . . may all hearts be filled with thanks.






Thursday, November 15, 2018



[Celebrate Life . . . accept the blessings you receive, be a blessing to someone who needs it. The  thoughts that follow appeared a couple of years ago.]

When I began this blog three years ago, my goal was to celebrate life. Good things, questionable things. Best of times, worst of times. Take a deeper look at what's going on in life, ordinary everyday life, and see what we might learn from it. 

Here's what I wrote in the first post:
     There's so much to celebrate in life! Always something
     to discover, to explore; something new to learn or teach;
     new books, new activities, new ideas. New friends, new
     neighbors to serve. New Day equals New Adventure.

I still believe that.

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The month of November is officially half over, and we are on the slippery slope toward Christmas, New Year's, and then a whole new calendar for 2017.

In November we've celebrated a variety of events: Daylight Savings Time ended; Election Day came and went; we honored our military personnel on Veteran's Day; and next week we'll gather as families or friends to observe Thanksgiving Day. In my family, we also have two birthdays--a granddaughter-in-law and a great-grandson.

Here's a partial list of what happens in our country during a calendar year:



  • honoring veterans
  • giving thanks
  • welcoming the Christ Child
  • welcoming a new year
  • saying "I Love You"
  • observing Easter
  • honoring the dead
  • remembering our country's birth as a nation
  • honoring workers
  • remembering a birthday
  • saying "I'm thinking of you"
Greeting card companies certainly encourage us to celebrate. So do all commercial enterprises that sell foods, household goods, toys, etc., not to mention decorations. (Halloween has become big in our area--orange lights, ghosts great and small, inflated monsters of dubious ancestry.)

All these events got me wondering. Why is it that we limit ourselves to one day for our celebrations? I'm not lobbying for a week-long hoop-la or "every day is [whatever] day."

And I'm not trying to start a protest here. First thing you know, it'll become an issue, then a movement. If we're not vigilant, we could get so much support we'd become a national institution, demanding our very own day, with a Forever stamp named for us. Cards/decorations/T-shirts with our logo would flood the market.

My thoughts run to the idea of: Why don't we keep the spirit of the event alive?

The Veteran's Day celebration at my church was very moving. Six veterans from a rehab house came to visit and processed down the aisle carrying the colors (flags) of each of the branches of the military. These men looked so serious, so stern. They were not in uniform, but they carried themselves with dignity. I had a hard time finishing the hymn we were singing because of the lump in my throat.

Because one of my grandsons is a veteran, I think of our military personnel often during the year. That's what I mean about keeping the spirit of the celebration alive.

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Facebook's 30 Days of Gratitude has brought the practice of giving thanks to the attention of many folks. It's not just a Thanksgiving Day thing.

In my community, people put flowers on the graves of their family members and friends all year through, not only at Memorial Day. We honor all who have died.

In July we have our fireworks displays, picnics, parades . . . another time for remembering those who died in the process of making us a nation.

Labor Day has become a long weekend for vacations or other kinds of events. Yet the reason for the day was to honor workers in our country. Despite unemployment statistics, many people work.

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I doubt that many people forget to say "I love you" to those who mean a lot to them. Some people say they don't remember birthdays, not even their own; but I do remember birthdays, my own, those of my family and friends, and even people I don't know well. (Don't ask me why--I don't know.) And I often send little "thinking of you" cards--not much message needed; to know a person is thought of makes a difference.

The stores are already in Christmas mode. My orientation is Christian, so I'm on the welcoming committee for the Christ Child. Celebrations for Christmas need not be lavish. My favorite way to celebrate Christmas is with family--eating a meal together, sharing gifts, catching up on news, seeing the newest baby (in pictures, if not in person). And I try to keep the message of "peace on earth" alive all year through.

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Think about how you celebrate--your favorites may not be mine. See if you can come up with a way to keep the spirit of the event alive in your life.





Thursday, November 8, 2018

LEARNING, RE-LEARNNG, AND INDIAN SUMMER

[I never tire of learning something new. This post appeared a few years ago and remains true to my philosophy of life. Hope you're learning something new this year!]

Long before “Lifelong Learning” became an educational policy, I’d enrolled.

So, most likely, did every one of you.

Think about it—we start out as totally dependent infants with only a few ways to communicate, mainly bawling our heads off. When we get satisfaction—food, clean diaper, a cuddle—we have learned how to get what we want.

From there, it’s easy-peasy. New stuff comes along every minute—noises, voices; lights, darkness; tasty foods, icky foods; same with smells; and tactile delights, or not. Learning is innate, not an option. That is, if you’re going to survive.

So lifelong learning has always been with us. It just got discovered, or rediscovered, and made into a virtue. And, as I said, an educational policy.

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How do we learn? Let me count the ways . . . books, films, one-on-one teaching; observation (my youngest daughter asserts that she was “the good child” because she watched her older siblings get into trouble for this, that, and the other, and decided it wasn’t worth doing); osmosis (this is probably what the philosophers meant when they tried to say we become what we are by Nurture, not Nature); even deliberate choice.

What we retain, however, is probably only dependent on ourselves—our intent to remember what we learn, our need for it (good motivator, need), our interest or not.

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Given that opportunities for learning surround us, what I want to explore today is the process of re-learning.


It goes like this: I have a method for doing something, say, cleaning up the yard in the fall before the snow flies (if I’m lucky and take the time). My method involves sweatshirt, work gloves, sunglasses, mask; rake, push broom (for cleaning off the patio and driveway), regular broom (for getting leaves out of corners and cracks); keys for all the outside doors, in case I want to get back in without walking all the way around; and a tarp for loading leaves and hauling them from back yard to curb out front.

(It takes longer to tell about than to do. Trust me on this one.)

That’s my method. Thus, a couple of weeks ago, when it looked as if the weather might be going to break and rain/chill/wind was the climate du jour—in fact, every jour—I went through my routine and went out for my first leaf-raking session. The day before’s rain had helped the leaves stay in place; it also added more weight than I was ready for. I hauled two heavy tarpsful out to the curb, and that was it for me. I was out of breath, out of energy, and out of patience with limitations.

I decided to wait for the yard man’s return from Florida.

And, I decided to buy a leaf blower.

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When the yard man got back from his nice vacation, he mulched and bagged most of the leaves from the back yard (heaviest leaf fall) and mulched the (many fewer) leaves in front. We both knew the front was going to fill up again, minute by minute.

Yesterday was LB-Day. I got out the leaf blower, found the heavy extension cord, hooked the whole thing up, pressed the button, and hey presto! leaves scattered like magic.

I’d intended to stay outside 15, maybe 20 minutes, learning how to manipulate the new machine and decide if I really liked it. By the time I cleaned up a large chunk of the front yard and had a respectable percentage of leaves at the curb (of which I was shamelessly proud) I’d been out 40 minutes. Came inside—no back ache, no sore arm/shoulder. Had a cup of coffee and patted myself on the back.

I’d re-learned something. How about that?

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I have to admit right here: The new method isn’t the be-all and end-all of leaf management. I don’t want to use an electrical appliance outside in the rain, for example. And I doubt if even the higher powered setting will lift sopping wet leaves with enthusiasm. But for these halcyon, sunny days of autumn, the leaf blower brings back some of my former enjoyment of yard work.

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Re-learning, I believe, occurs in a spiral—not in a circle. We’re not repeating the same old-same old and getting nowhere. We’re starting at the same place, and upping our approach a notch. And then maybe another notch.

This works for nearly everything—woodworking, needlework, designing, cooking . . . .

The underlying question is: What If?

What if . . . I try cutting the boards this way first?
What if . . . I combine two yarns instead of using a thicker one?
What if . . . I change the shape of the house to an L, instead of a rectangle?
What if . . . I use allspice instead of cinnamon in the apple pie?

Once you start asking “What if . . .” you become creative. You dare to think of a different method, another view of something you’ve always done one way.

Kids do it all the time. They color a giraffe green. They use purple shoestrings in red shoes. They lie on the floor and put their feet on the couch while they read.

Try it! You might like what you re-learn.

Of course, you’ll find sometimes there’s no good reason to change—it’s the old “ain’t broke so don’t fix it” situation. Your choice.

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One area of re-learning has caused me some grief. I refer to the matter of being Politically Correct.

My thinking is not naturally of the P.C. kind. Here’s an example:

When I was a kid, the Chicago Tribune ran a great, large, picture/drawing of an Indian (now, Native American) leaning against a tree smoking a pipe. In the background are teepees with smoke coming out of the top, the air is hazy, and all around the crops have been harvested. We didn’t need a caption or a story to tell us: This is Indian Summer.

[It’s called by other names in other places. St. Martin’s Summer and St. Luke’s Summer were formerly used in the UK, because the feast days of these two saints occurred in autumn.]

I mean no disrespect to Native Americans by using the term Indian Summer. What I recall from my youth is descriptive and conjurs up exactly how I think of this dry, sunny spell after the first killing frost.

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Enjoy this season, whatever you call it. Celebrate the seasons, new inventions to lighten our work load, and the opportunity to change our ways of thinking.

Have a great week!







Thursday, November 1, 2018

LIGHT
Erasmus - 15th Century Dutch Christian
humanist and scholar

Three more days . . . and we're going to "gain an hour" by setting our clocks back before we go to bed. Or, if we're lucky enough to have current technology ticking away our minutes and hours, our atomic clocks, cell phones, and computers will do the changing for us.

That's all I'm going to say about going back to Standard Time.

And the only reason I bring it up at all is that for a little while, maybe a couple of weeks, we'll have sunrise in my neck of the woods around 7:00 AM.

Which  means, in case you're not already asleep from this convoluted intro, that we will have a little more light in the morning, and not so much at night.

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Light, as a topic of interest, has intrigued me for a long time.

Who among us can say we've never--never--felt we were stumbling around in the dark?

It doesn't have to be literal darkness--power goes off, or light bulb burns out, or we're out camping and the only light is the campfire, so don't go wandering off to the latrine unless you have a flashlight.

Darkness can be metaphorical--we simply can't see/understand/perceive a way out of our dilemma. We often need someone to guide us back to the light.



Edith Wharton - American Author - 1862-1937
At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us. 
     Albert Schweitzer


The flip side of that metaphor is that each of us becomes the guide.

A smile is the light in your window that tells others that there is a caring, sharing person inside. 
     Denis Waitley

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I've never been a good traveler--going into the unknown was, and is, 'way beyond my comfort zone. (Pretty much everything is outside my comfort zone, but that's a story for another day.)

Anyway, when I found the above quotation from Christopher Columbus, who, in the 15th Century made numerous explorations by sea far from his homeland of Italy, I recognized in those eleven words a profound statement: We followed the sun, we left our home. But the important part is this: They followed the light of the sun. They didn't sail off into darkness. They may not have known exactly where they were going, but they followed the light.

I find that thought comforting.

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Francis Bacon - English - 1561-1626
At first this would seem to be a Duh statement--but when Francis Bacon wrote it in his century, it held great truth: We recognize light only when we also know the darkness is there. It's the contrast that determines the brightness of the light.

And you don't have to be a creationist to understand that God brought light into being and separated it from the darkness--day and night.


Ursula K. LeGuin, an American author, expressed it this way:


American novelist - 1929-2018

Artists, especially painters, know the value of light and shadow. In fact, many painters make small "value studies" to indicate where color changes from light to dark.






May your days be filled with light.